For year’s I suffered low self esteem and confidence in a relationship which started very good but ended up being a nightmare from hell. My ex husband used to abuse me with words that can kill. He even mentioned that one of his friends asked him why he marries someone like me, when their where much better women than me. At one point, I could not even look at myself in the mirror as I felt so insecure in the way I looked.
After a while, I could take things no more, and ended up getting a divorce. I decided to train as a life coach, and started developing my self esteem and confidence. It was only two years ago that I decided to have full length mirrors in the house.
I realise that we all have to accept ourselves for who we are. When God created us, he made each and everyone of us unique and special. There is no one who looks like you or even has the same DNA as you.
So love yourself, and doesn’t let the words of an individual put you down.
Today, I am confident lone parent with two young children, I am an inspired entrepreneur running 3 businesses, which means I am in control of my destiny. I am now determined and passionate to help other women maximise their potential and be the best they can. I have a fun life with myself, my children, my family and friends.
Who is a confident woman?
There are few things more beautiful on a person than confidence. Women who wear it radiate strength, passion and conviction.
A confident woman is not afraid to be herself. Plain and simple and beautiful, or flamboyant and fabulous.
A confident woman knows who she is. She understands her purpose, and her gifts. She knows that there are certain things only she can contribute to this world, at this time, in this place.
A confident woman knows her style. It doesn’t matter whether you prefer zebra stripes and pink fur, or to be cloaked in grays and subtle greens.
Whether you like tennis or Victorian teas; Shopping or hiking; or all of the above. What is most important is to be you.
That means stretching and stepping out. If you’re supposed to be on the front lines, be there. Don’t step back. If you are blessed with supportive skills, be the best supporter you can ever be. Expand your skills. Celebrate
1. Face your fears – they aren’t as bad as you think they are. Facing your fears increases your confidence.
2. Forget your failures – learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don’t limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can’t succeed this time. Try again, you’re wiser and stronger. Don’t be trapped in the past!
3. Know what you want and ask for it. You deserve your dreams to come true.
4. Reward yourself when you succeed. No-one else will! Isn’t everything easier when you take time to help yourself?
5. Talk – We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behaviour can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don’t assume you know why or how.
6. Don’t be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt are you? Doesn’t everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach. Good luck! I wish you happiness and success
Raise your self esteem
- Focus on the parts of your body you like
- Dress to emphasis what you have and look good
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Start an exercise program
- Eat healthy food and stay away from diets
- Play sports as often as you can
- Walk as much as you can
- Don’t smoke at all or drink too much
- Write down compliments you receive about how you look
- Straighten up, smile and look straight ahead – you’ll look and feel more confident